Communication, key to lock lurking misunderstandings in marriage

Happy New Year distinguished readers, 2023 has gone into the archives never to come back but to be accessed when needed. I wish you an enjoyable ride in 2024
In this segment, we shall be talking about commitment in marriage. and the factors that can be applied to make it work.
The concept of marriage has always been “Until death do us part.” Today, to many people; it is more like “As long as I am happy.” And nowadays, even the interpretation of this happiness varies.
For various reasons, we sometimes find it difficult to communicate our personal needs and expectations to our partners; such needs and expectations can change from time to time due to changing circumstances in our lives.
For example, you and your partner might have come together because of your mutual desire to travel and explore the universe. But your life’s direction may change after you have your fill of adventure from travelling. Also, sometimes we do not fully understand the implications of what we ask or expect from our partnership. Misunderstandings lurk in many love relationships, we ought to maintain constant communication, both verbal and non-verbal, clearly expressing what we expect from our spouse. Maintaining the flexibility to regroup and renegotiate our understanding of our relationship and agreement from time to time.
It was customary to honour your commitment in marriage, once you made it, you lived by it, but many people, after 25 or more years of unhappy marriages, Confessed that they remained together only because of their commitments or probably because of the children.
You are bonded by your words.
Know that your commitment to your marriage license indicates that, after serious consideration with full responsibility and integrity, you are agreeing to share your life with your partner; to assist in his/her personal growth development and happiness wherever and whenever you can. You also agree to cherish and protect the union with your partner so it can forever flourish and always remain a happy one. You are agreeing to this because you want to, and for no other reason.” when you look at marriage in this way, it becomes easier to see why marriage commitment does not end with a ceremony instead, it becomes a commitment for two people to strive toward on a day-to-day basis.
The commitment is to ensure the continued growth of each other and the relationship.
Many people believe that after they have taken the necessary steps to secure a marriage commitment, they can relax in the comfort of it and assume that the work is done. This kind of thinking can cause complacency, which is one of the killers of love relationships. I am reminded of an old saying; “The same things you did to win your partner are the same things you should do to keep him/her.”
Yes, there are good reasons to celebrate when two people decide to commit to each other in a loving relationship, but remember that this is only the beginning, celebrate that you have been blessed with the good fortune to find a mate who has met your standards for eligibility and that you have both fallen in love with each other.
You must also realize that an offer of a commitment is a demonstration of the highest regard and a great compliment of love. When your partner offers marriage or another form of formal commitment to you for the right reasons, he/she is saying you have been placed as the highest priority in his/her life. Treasure this commitment and use your relationship as a launching ground, this launching ground marks the beginning of a new journey, which can take you to new places that you have never dreamt of in your life.
We take it up from the next edition
Happy New Year once again, 2024 will be a beautiful one for us all.
Ire oo.