Infidelity Forms And The Internet Approach

I have no intention of boring you with a technical explanation. Instead, I want to raise awareness about the negative impact of using various forms of internet communication on marital relationships, often without considering the consequences until it becomes unbearable. When the word “infidelity” is mentioned, many people tend to avoid reading further, assuming that they are exempt from it. They may think, “I have never cheated on my spouse.” However, infidelity goes beyond physical affairs. Infidelity is essentially breaking a promise to remain faithful to a partner. This promise can take different forms, such as marriage vows sanctioned by the church or state, or even a private verbal agreement between lovers. Vows are not limited to marriage alone; they also exist in vocations like priesthood and religious life.
Therefore, this issue is relevant to everyone, especially those who have made lifelong commitments to faithfulness and chastity. The internet itself is a global system of interconnected computer networks that allows devices worldwide to communicate using the internet protocol suite.
This includes not only computers but also various mobile devices like smartphones and tablets. The capabilities of modern electronic devices are truly remarkable. Androids, Windows, iPads, iPhones, and other devices enable seamless connectivity. This connectivity is facilitated through applications and platforms such as emails, Facebook, WhatsApp, Skype, Twitter, and many others. Now, what is the main point here? Let’s go back to the garden of Eden, our original home, where we all existed in Adam’s loins. The detailed account of Adam’s fall and its consequences can be found in Genesis chapter 3, contains detailed account of the fall of Adam and the punishment thereof.
Although it was not specified, but verses 1 and 6 indicated that the man was not at home when Mr. Snake came calling. That communication and conviction was done on phone app chats when Mr. Adam was not on chat line. Mr. Snake and Mrs. Eve had wonderful time together talking about so many beautiful things that God had made.

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He told her those things that were in place before she was conceived in Adam’s ribs; remember that Mr. Snake was made one the sixth day (Gen 1:24) but before Mr. Adam (Gen 1:27). There were some other things that He had convinced her to believe in before He came up with the idea of how beautiful the choplate of the apple can be. Let’s break it down. That communication never involved Adam, at the least, we were not told until the damage was done. Unfortunately, both of them were partakers of the punishment.
Check out King David Jesse’s interactions with the wives he won over. In 1 Samuel 25: 2-42, Queen Abigail David was formerly Mrs. Abigail Nabal, the wife of the rich farmer and general merchant called Chief Nabal Caleb of the city of Carmel when she encountered David; she was the one that made the advance at David. She begged David to come for her when he is enthroned and was bold enough to call her husband, Chief Nabal Caleb, a fool in verse 25. David promised to come for her (verse 35). On former Mrs. Bathsheba Uriah, aka the SHEBA that loves to BATH, in 2 Samuel 11, it was entirely David’s scheme and execution. At the time this issue was going on, David had three wives already, whom he was not interested in interacting with any more.
In the book of Esther, King Xerxes could not get the attention of Queen Vashti because she was getting distracted by her folks whom she considered their attention more important than the call of her king to appear at the royal court, she was dethroned for Esther to take her place and the rest were stories.
The bottom line is that there are so much distraction in marriages these days that spouses do no longer find time for themselves. We carry these communication gadgets in our hands and turn our backs to those whom we are supposed to pay attention to. Marital relationships and family life suffer. Spouses lay down on the comfort of their beds and they are emotionally connected to people thousands of miles away. In such chats, no topic is spared. For the reason of the absolute silence that the chats allow the users, they feel protected to engage in all manners of things. There can only be an invasion to their privacy when the discussion is made public. To guide against this, checks are put in place: chats can be locked or deleted. Handsets are padlocked with locks that neither a sledge hammer nor Chike’s saw blade can cut through (password).
So the infidelity on focus here is not the just about having extramarital affairs, but all manners of physical and emotional disconnect amongst spouses. Emotional affairs can be described as a bond between persons that mimic the closeness and emotional intimacy of a romantic relationship but have not been physically consummated. The main reason for it not being consummated most of the time is distance and sometimes, the fear of the unknown. This emotional bond may be deeper than what exists in some marriage.

Why does such infidelity in relationship occur?
In the case of Adam, he was too busy looking for what the wife will eat that he forgot about communication. Form a habit of reaching out to your spouse every now and then. Mrs. Eve Adam was not engaged at all. All wives should be made busy. The devil finds workshop more frequently in minds that are not busy. No matter how little the income from what engages her mind, it will always be better than idleness.
Chief Nabal Caleb was described by his own wife as a fool. In order words, he would not allow her wisdom to rub off on his foolishness. How accommodating are you to your spouse? Abi you be the type wen sabi everything? Allow your spouse a space in the decisions of the house. Two heads, they say is always better than one (good heads though).
King David went looking while Bathsheba went bathing. Remember that women are thrilled by what they hear. What have you been telling your wife? Who has been talking to her? Men are moved by what they see. What has your husband been seeing? Hardcore picture are readily available, just for a click of a button, a show is initiated.
Who has been calling your attention? Is your king or queen still in charge of your attention or you are busy with your ‘guests’?
I advise that you stay focused on your choice. None outside your marriage will ever be better than what you already have. The best out there was someone’s good that was turned around to be the best. Read the ending of all the stories cited in this article with reference to the scriptures, they all had bitter tastes. Genesis 3 is the reason why am at work today (Gen 3:19). 1 Samuel 25: 2-42, was the reason why David ran away from his throne (2 Sam 15). 2 Samuel 11 was the reason why David wept for the first time is a king. (2 Sam 12:18).
•Ike Mbakwo.