Until death do us part drifts to ‘as long as I am happy’(2)

You must realise that an offer of commitment is a demonstration of the highest order of love compliment.
When your partner offers marriage or another form of formal commitment to you for the right reasons, he/she is saying that you have been placed as the highest priority in his/her life. Treasure this commitment and use your relationship as a launching ground, this will be the propagation of a fertile journey, which may take you to your promised land filled with milk and honey.
The hidden truth about marriage is the willingness to give up all you have for others to commit to one person. It has become one of the fun-filled exercises and practices gotten into by people who are longing to find self-actualization and happiness. Marriage is the union of two souls bound together by heaven to procreate and live the rest of their lives together.
Married life is a very complex and challenging one but strong marriage will not be strong if the couple has not experienced dissatisfaction at one point or the other in their married journey. Disputes between two different people living under one roof are inevitable thus for a married couple, it could be the main source for arguments like; which television show to watch or who controls the remote control, these could be a spanner in the wheel. That is because the problem starts gradually.
When arguments; petty quarrels persist, these are clear indications that marital bliss is heading towards a bigger disaster. These problems are inevitable because marriage consists of two people, don’t forget that no two-way persons are exactly alike, we all are unique, so even if you have already proven that you are compactable with one person while you were still boyfriend and girlfriend, problems and differences would never cease to arise when you are already living together as a couple. Many married couples live together for up to 50 years or more, yet their relationship is still harmonious, there are several secrets to a better marriage, but the most important thing to bear in mind is that these secrets do not apply to everyone, you would have to devise and explore for your marital success secrets since you are the one living the married life and it will be nice if you can make use of a relevant method that you know will work for you through different books that handle different issues as far as marriage is a concern. Since marital problems cannot be overlooked, because they persist, it will be better if the couple can come together and outgrow them to be able to make their marriage a blended one. A lot of things can help build a lasting relationship such as ‘MAiNTAIN OPEN COMMUNICATION’, this can help in so many ways, so, talk to each other and speak up about what you have in mind. There is no sense in being shy or secretive. Since your partner is your better half, he or she is also you. Be truthful and open to yourself and your partner. Also, it is good you listen before you speak because the bible says “Be swift about hearing slow about speaking, slow about wrath” (James 1:19). Stay calm whenever there is an argument, especially when your partner is becoming aggressive, hysterical or somehow violent, diplomacy solves all disputes. Arguments between married couples are the perfect timing to exude and show diplomacy to each other. It would help to keep an open mind and aim to solve all problems together. Another thing in ‘maintaining open communication’ is to speak honestly from the heart.
So opening up with your partner will improve communication as well as allow you to live free from secrets and resentment.
Crying shouting or storming out will delay resolution so always talk the talk, if you feel the need to withdraw from a conversation, express why you are doing that to your partner in a controlled fashion. Realize it takes two of you to make a bad relationship and also to make a great one, so you need to understand that letting an argument drag on for days, weeks, or months cannot do anything but inflame the problems. ‘LISTEN’ deeply relax your mind, and smiling give a start to build trust with each other but when you listen to the words and message of your partner, then it will create unexplainable joy in the heart of your partner.
Share their thoughts by listening to their words. Allow him or her to speak successfully.
•We will continue in the next edition.